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Catfishing is when someone pretends to be a different person online to gain trust, attention, money, images, or access. Grooming is a pattern of behavior where someone builds a relationship with a child or teen for sexual exploitation, manipulation, or control. These situations can overlap: a fake profile may be used to start contact, create emotional closeness, and push for secrecy, private chats, or photos. Parents often notice small changes first, such as a child becoming protective of a device, emotionally attached to someone they have never met, or anxious after messages arrive.
The person quickly becomes intense, affectionate, or highly attentive, calling your child special, mature, or misunderstood and trying to create a strong bond early.
They ask your child to keep the relationship private, move to disappearing messages, hide chats, or avoid telling parents, friends, or other trusted adults.
They ask for private photos, personal details, location information, late-night chats, or conversations that make your child uncomfortable but unsure how to stop.
If you suspect something is wrong, avoid blame or panic. A calm response makes it more likely your child will share what has happened and ask for help.
Look for inconsistent stories, refusal to video chat, stolen-looking photos, multiple accounts, sudden requests for secrecy, or pressure to move conversations off the platform.
Take screenshots, keep usernames and message history, block and report the account, and contact law enforcement or child safety resources if there are sexual requests, threats, or extortion.
Start with reassurance: 'You’re not in trouble, and I want to help.' Ask open questions about who they have been talking to, how the person makes them feel, and whether there has been pressure to keep secrets or send anything private. Focus on safety, not punishment. If your child feels embarrassed, remind them that manipulative adults and fake accounts are designed to gain trust. The goal is to keep communication open while you make a plan together.
End contact if possible, block the account, and make sure your child is not meeting the person offline or sharing live location, school details, or routine information.
Save screenshots, profile links, payment requests, threats, and image requests. This can help with platform reports and any police or school safety follow-up.
If there are sexual messages, coercion, blackmail, or explicit images, seek professional help right away through law enforcement, child protection resources, or a qualified mental health professional.
Catfishing is when someone uses a fake identity online to deceive another person. Parents should watch for online contacts who avoid video calls, have inconsistent personal details, use overly polished or suspicious photos, or become emotionally intense very quickly.
Common warning signs include flattery, secrecy, gift-giving, isolating your child from trusted adults, sexualized conversation, requests for private photos, and pressure to move chats to more private apps. Grooming often develops gradually, so patterns matter more than any single message.
Teens may become unusually secretive about devices, defensive about a specific online relationship, emotionally dependent on someone they have never met, or distressed after messages. You may also notice hidden accounts, disappearing chats, or sudden concern about keeping conversations private.
Stay calm, listen without blame, save evidence, block and report the account, and assess whether there is immediate risk. If there are sexual requests, threats, extortion, or plans to meet in person, contact law enforcement and appropriate child safety resources right away.
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