Get practical, age-aware strategies for cooperative play between siblings, including how to encourage sharing, turn-taking, teamwork, and calmer playtime at home.
Tell us how your children currently interact during play, and we’ll help you identify realistic next steps to encourage siblings to play together more smoothly and reduce fighting during play.
Even siblings who care about each other may struggle to play nicely together. Differences in age, temperament, energy level, and developmental stage can make sharing, taking turns, and agreeing on rules difficult. The good news is that cooperative play is a skill that can be taught. With the right support, parents can help siblings cooperate during play, build teamwork, and spend more time enjoying each other instead of arguing.
Children often do better when they know who does what. Simple expectations like one builder and one helper, or taking turns choosing the game, can reduce power struggles.
Starting with brief activities for siblings to play together can be more successful than expecting long stretches of independent cooperation right away.
A quick prompt such as 'What’s your plan for sharing?' or 'Whose turn is next?' can support sibling playtime cooperation before frustration turns into fighting.
Use blocks, magnetic tiles, or cardboard to create one shared project. These games that encourage sibling teamwork work best when each child has a meaningful part.
Simple games with clear turns are useful for teaching siblings to share and take turns while keeping the interaction playful and predictable.
Give siblings one common goal, such as finding items together or completing a mini obstacle course as a team, to shift the focus from competing to cooperating.
Focus on prevention more than punishment. Set up play with one shared goal, enough materials when possible, and a clear plan for turns. Notice and name moments of cooperation so children learn what successful play looks like. If conflict starts, stay calm and coach the skill they need in that moment, such as asking for a turn, making a trade, or choosing a new role. Over time, these small interventions can help siblings play nicely together more often.
Conflict may still happen, but siblings begin returning to play with less adult involvement and less intensity.
You may hear phrases like 'your turn,' 'let’s do it together,' or 'you can be this part,' which shows growing cooperation skills.
Even a small increase in peaceful playtime is meaningful progress when helping siblings cooperate during play.
Start with short, low-pressure activities that match both children’s interests and give each child a clear role. It often helps to choose cooperative tasks instead of competitive games and to end the playtime while things are still going well.
Look for activities with flexible roles, such as building projects, pretend play with simple jobs, scavenger hunts, art stations, or easy movement games. The older child can handle more complex parts while the younger child still participates in a meaningful way.
Use visible turn-taking systems, short timers, and clear scripts like 'ask, wait, trade, or choose something else.' Teaching siblings to share and take turns is easier when expectations are practiced during calm moments, not only during conflict.
For siblings who fight often during play, teamwork games are usually a better starting point. They reduce the pressure of winning and help children practice problem-solving together before moving into more competitive play.
Step in early if the conflict is escalating, one child is overwhelmed, or the children do not yet have the skills to solve the problem on their own. If the disagreement is mild, brief coaching may be enough to help them practice cooperation.
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