Learn how to recognize intentional communication signs in babies and toddlers, spot meaningful nonverbal cues, and get clear next-step guidance for encouraging purposeful communication at home.
Share what you’re noticing—such as gestures, eye contact, reaching, protesting, or showing—and get personalized guidance tailored to your child’s current intentional communication level.
Intentional communication happens when a child communicates on purpose to affect another person. This can include looking at you to request help, pointing to share interest, reaching for a favorite item, pushing something away to protest, or using sounds and gestures to get attention. Before children use many words, these nonverbal intentional communication milestones often show that they understand communication is a powerful way to connect, request, and share.
Your child reaches toward a snack, points to a toy on a shelf, brings you a container to open, or looks between you and the item they want.
Your child turns away, pushes something aside, cries while looking at you, or uses a clear gesture or sound to say they do not want something.
Your child points to an airplane, shows you a toy, looks at you after noticing something exciting, or uses facial expression and body language to invite you into the moment.
Ask yourself whether your child is trying to get help, gain access, stop something, or share attention. Purpose is what makes a behavior intentional.
Intentional communication often combines cues, such as eye contact plus reaching, vocalizing plus pointing, or moving closer to you while gesturing.
If your child repeats a gesture, changes strategies, or keeps trying until you respond, that is a strong sign they are communicating deliberately.
Pause during routines, place favorite items in sight but out of reach, and wait expectantly so your child has a reason to communicate with you.
When your child uses a gesture, look, sound, or body movement with clear intent, respond warmly and consistently so they learn their communication works.
Add an easy gesture, word, or sign to what your child is already doing. For example, if they reach, you can model 'up,' 'open,' or a simple point.
Some families searching for intentional communication cues autism are trying to understand whether a child’s communication is developing differently. Differences in eye contact, pointing, showing, shared attention, or using gestures to communicate can be important to notice, but they do not tell the whole story on their own. A closer look at your child’s current patterns across daily routines can help clarify strengths, emerging skills, and where extra support may be helpful—especially for a nonverbal child or a child who communicates mostly through actions and body language.
Intentional communication signs in babies can include reaching to be picked up, looking at a caregiver and then at an object, lifting arms, pushing something away, vocalizing to get attention, or smiling and looking back to share interest. The key is that the baby appears to be communicating for a reason.
Nonverbal intentional communication milestones often include using eye gaze, gestures, facial expressions, body movements, pointing, showing, giving, and coordinated attention to communicate needs and interests. Children develop these skills at different rates, but growing purpose and consistency are important signs to watch.
Start by noticing what motivates your child, then create simple opportunities for them to communicate. Pause, wait, and respond to any purposeful signal such as reaching, looking, handing you an item, or using a gesture. Build from what they already do naturally, and model one small next step at a time.
Intentional communication usually has a clear goal and is directed toward another person. You may see your child look at you, repeat the behavior, combine cues, or persist until they get a response. Random behavior is less likely to be socially directed or tied to a specific outcome.
Pointing and showing are important intentional communication gestures for toddlers, especially for sharing interest and requesting. If these skills are limited or inconsistent, it can be helpful to look more closely at your child’s broader communication patterns and get personalized guidance on supportive next steps.
Answer a few questions about the cues your child uses—like gestures, eye contact, requesting, protesting, and sharing interest—to better understand their current communication patterns and what to encourage next.
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