If your child is head banging, hitting themselves, biting, scratching, or showing other self-injurious behavior, get clear next steps and personalized guidance based on what you’re seeing at home.
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Self-injurious behavior in children can be upsetting and confusing, especially when it happens during frustration, transitions, sensory overload, or big emotions. Some children bang their head, hit themselves when upset, bite their hand or arm, scratch their skin, or pull their hair. This page is designed to help parents understand what may be driving the behavior and how to respond in a calm, supportive, and safety-focused way.
You may be seeing self-hitting during tantrums, after being told no, or when your child cannot communicate what they want. Guidance should focus on safety, regulation, and what happens right before the behavior.
Head banging can happen during distress, fatigue, sensory seeking, or overwhelm. Parents often need help figuring out how to respond in the moment while also reducing triggers over time.
Biting self, scratching skin, or picking can be linked to frustration, anxiety, sensory needs, or difficulty recovering from strong emotions. A behavior plan can help identify patterns and safer replacement responses.
Learn supportive ways to reduce harm without escalating the situation, including how to stay calm, lower demands when needed, and protect your child during intense moments.
Look at what tends to happen before and after the behavior, such as transitions, denied access, sensory discomfort, communication breakdowns, or fatigue.
Get direction on next steps that may include prevention strategies, replacement skills, calming supports, and ways to respond consistently across caregivers.
Autism self-injurious behavior strategies often need to account for sensory processing, communication differences, rigidity, and stress responses. The same is true for children with developmental delays or other special needs. Effective support usually starts with understanding the function of the behavior, not just trying to stop it quickly. Parents often benefit from guidance that is individualized, realistic, and centered on safety and regulation.
If self-injurious behavior is becoming a regular pattern, it can help to track triggers, intensity, and recovery so you can respond more effectively.
If there are marks, bruises, skin damage, or repeated impact, parents often need a clearer safety plan and guidance on what to do next.
When redirection, comfort, or consequences are not changing the pattern, a more individualized approach can help you understand why the behavior is continuing.
Focus first on safety and staying calm. Reduce immediate harm, lower stimulation if needed, and avoid adding pressure during a highly escalated moment. Afterward, look at what happened before the behavior, what your child may have been communicating, and what support could help next time.
Toddlers may hit themselves when they are overwhelmed, frustrated, tired, unable to communicate, or struggling to regulate strong emotions. The behavior does not always mean the same thing in every child, which is why looking at patterns and triggers is important.
Helpful strategies depend on why the head banging is happening. Some children need support with sensory regulation, some need help during transitions or frustration, and others need a clearer prevention plan. Safety comes first, but long-term improvement usually comes from understanding the function of the behavior.
Yes. For autistic children, support often needs to consider sensory needs, communication differences, predictability, and overload. Strategies are usually most effective when they are individualized and focused on reducing distress while teaching safer ways to communicate or regulate.
Parents can start by tracking what happens before, during, and after the behavior, along with time of day, triggers, and what seems to help. A useful plan includes safety steps, prevention ideas, replacement skills, and consistent responses. Personalized guidance can make that plan more specific and easier to follow.
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