If your child or teen has self-harmed and you are wondering how serious the suicide risk may be, this page can help you look at immediate warning signs, know what questions matter, and decide when to seek urgent help.
Answer a few questions about what happened, what you are seeing right now, and how concerned you are. You’ll get personalized guidance on possible suicide risk after self-harm and next-step support options.
After self-harm, many parents ask the same urgent questions: Is this a sign my child may be suicidal? What questions should I ask? Do I need emergency help right now? A suicide risk assessment looks at current danger, recent statements about wanting to die, access to lethal means, changes in behavior, and whether your child can stay safe with support. It is not about blaming yourself or trying to figure everything out alone. It is about noticing the level of risk and responding quickly and appropriately.
Take statements seriously if your child says they want to die, cannot go on, wish they were dead, or talks about killing themselves, even if they later minimize it.
Risk is higher if they describe how they would do it, have gathered pills, sharp objects, cords, firearms, or other means, or have been searching for ways to die.
Warning signs can include panic, agitation, hopelessness, intoxication, feeling trapped, saying goodbye, withdrawing suddenly, or being unable to agree to stay safe right now.
You can ask, 'Are you thinking about ending your life?' Asking directly does not put the idea in their head. It helps you understand the level of danger.
Follow up with questions like, 'Have you thought about how you would do it?' and 'Do you think you might act on these thoughts soon?' Plan and intent raise concern.
Ask whether they have access to pills, weapons, sharp objects, ropes, or other means, and whether they feel able to stay with a trusted adult and accept help tonight.
Seek emergency help immediately if your child has attempted suicide, is in immediate danger, has a plan and intent, cannot be kept safe, is severely impaired, or has taken an overdose or serious injury.
If risk feels urgent but not actively life-threatening, contact 988, your local crisis team, or your child’s mental health provider for same-day guidance and safety planning.
Stay with your child, reduce access to medications, firearms, blades, cords, and other dangerous items, and bring in another trusted adult if you need help getting support in place.
Look for suicidal statements, hopelessness, a recent escalation in self-harm, a specific suicide plan, giving away belongings, searching for methods, or access to lethal means. If you are seeing several of these signs together, treat it as urgent.
Stay with them, ask directly whether they are thinking about ending their life, remove or lock up dangerous items if you can do so safely, and seek immediate support. If there is immediate danger, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room. In the U.S., you can also call or text 988 for crisis support.
No. Some young people self-harm to cope with overwhelming emotions without wanting to die. But self-harm can increase suicide risk, especially when there is hopelessness, suicidal thinking, planning, or worsening behavior. That is why a careful suicide risk assessment matters.
The most important areas are current suicidal thoughts, intent, plan, access to means, recent self-harm, past attempts, substance use, severe agitation or hopelessness, and whether your child can stay safe with close adult support.
Answer a few questions to assess current concern, review warning signs, and understand whether your next step should be emergency care, crisis support, or prompt follow-up with a mental health professional.
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