If your toddler or preschooler throws toys, throws things at parents, or starts tossing objects when angry, frustrated, or seeking attention, you’re not alone. Get clear, practical next steps based on what’s driving the behavior.
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Throwing is a common impulsive behavior in toddlers and preschoolers, but the reason behind it matters. Some children throw toys during tantrums because they’re overwhelmed. Others throw things when angry or frustrated because they don’t yet have the words or self-control to handle big feelings. Some throw objects at parents or other people to get a strong reaction, and some keep throwing throughout the day because the behavior has become a habit. The most effective response starts with understanding the pattern, not just stopping the moment.
A child throwing objects when angry or frustrated often needs help calming down before they can learn a different response.
Toddler throwing objects for attention can increase when throwing reliably gets a big reaction, even if the reaction is negative.
Preschooler throwing things during tantrums usually calls for a calm safety response, consistent boundaries, and follow-through after the storm passes.
Move nearby objects, block unsafe throwing when possible, and use a short, calm limit such as, “I won’t let you throw that.”
If your child keeps throwing toys at people or throws things at parents, avoid long lectures in the moment. Calm, predictable action works better.
Once your child is regulated, practice what to do instead: hand it to you, put it down, ask for help, stomp feet, or use simple feeling words.
When parents search for how to discipline a child for throwing things, what usually helps most is a combination of safety, consistency, and teaching. Discipline does not need to mean harsh punishment. A strong response might include removing the thrown item, ending access to unsafe objects, helping your child calm down, and revisiting the limit afterward. If your toddler throws things at parents or your child throws objects when angry, the goal is to reduce the behavior while building emotional regulation and safer ways to communicate.
Different strategies are needed when throwing happens mostly during meltdowns versus all day long.
If your toddler is throwing objects for attention, small changes in how you respond can make a big difference.
How to handle throwing objects in toddlers may look different from what works for an older preschooler.
Focus on safety first. Move dangerous items, block more throwing if you can, and use a calm, clear statement like, “I won’t let you throw that.” Keep your response short. Once your child is calmer, teach what to do instead.
Toddlers may throw toys at parents or other people because they are angry, frustrated, overstimulated, seeking attention, or struggling with impulse control. The pattern matters. Throwing during tantrums often needs a different response than throwing to get a reaction.
Try reducing the payoff for throwing while increasing attention for appropriate behavior. Stay calm, set the limit, remove the object if needed, and give positive attention when your child hands items over, asks for help, or plays safely.
Harsh punishment usually does not teach the skill your child is missing. More effective discipline includes stopping the behavior, removing unsafe objects, following through consistently, and teaching a safer replacement behavior after your child is calm.
It can be common, especially when children are still learning emotional regulation. But common does not mean you should ignore it. If your preschooler is throwing things during tantrums, consistent limits and coaching can help reduce the behavior over time.
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