If your ex is sending threatening messages, posting about your child on social media, or escalating digital contact after a breakup, you do not have to sort it out alone. Get clear, parent-focused guidance for ex-partner digital harassment and practical next steps to help protect your child.
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Ex-partner digital harassment can look like repeated messages, pressure through gaming or social apps, public posts about your child, threats, impersonation, or cyberstalking. Parents often feel stuck between co-parenting concerns, safety worries, and uncertainty about what counts as harassment. This page is designed for that exact situation: helping you identify what is happening, reduce immediate risk, and choose next steps that fit your family.
An ex-partner may send direct messages that frighten, pressure, shame, or try to control your child. This can include repeated contact after being asked to stop.
Public or semi-public posts can expose private details, stir conflict, or embarrass your child. Even if framed as "just sharing," it may still be harmful or inappropriate.
This can include tracking accounts, creating new profiles after being blocked, watching your child’s activity, or contacting them across multiple platforms.
Save screenshots, usernames, dates, links, and message history. Keep records in one place so you can show patterns if you need school, platform, or legal support.
Review your child’s social media, messaging, and gaming settings. Block accounts where appropriate, limit who can message them, and turn off location sharing.
If possible, pause nonessential contact channels, help your child avoid reading upsetting messages, and create a plan for what they should do if new contact appears.
If the harassment is affecting your child’s emotional well-being, attendance, friendships, or online school spaces, outside support can help stabilize the situation.
Social media and messaging platforms may remove content, restrict accounts, or preserve evidence when harassment, threats, or impersonation are reported properly.
If your ex-partner is threatening your child, violating custody boundaries, or continuing after clear requests to stop, legal help may be worth considering.
Start by documenting the posts, messages, and account details. Adjust privacy settings, block or restrict contact where appropriate, and reduce your child’s exposure to upsetting content. If the behavior continues or includes threats, consider reporting it to the platform and seeking professional or legal guidance.
It can, depending on the content, frequency, and impact. Posts that reveal private information, shame your child, provoke conflict, or continue after objections may be part of a pattern of digital harassment.
Warning signs include repeated monitoring, contacting your child across multiple apps, creating new accounts after being blocked, tracking online activity, or showing an unusual awareness of your child’s digital behavior. A pattern matters more than a single incident.
Consider legal guidance if there are threats, repeated unwanted contact, violations of custody or communication boundaries, impersonation, doxxing, or behavior that is escalating despite requests to stop. Local laws vary, so individualized advice can be important.
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