If your child is being targeted online, you may be wondering what to say, what to save, and when to involve the school or platform. Get clear, parent-focused guidance for the next steps.
Share how serious the online behavior feels right now, and we’ll help you think through how to support your child, document what happened, and decide whether reporting is needed.
Start by helping your child feel safe and supported. Stay calm, listen without blaming, and avoid telling them to simply ignore it. Save screenshots, messages, usernames, dates, and platform details before anything is deleted. Then review whether the behavior should be blocked, reported to the platform, shared with the school, or escalated because of threats, harassment, or repeated targeting. A thoughtful response can protect your child while reducing further harm.
Let your child know you believe them, you’re glad they told you, and they are not to blame for someone else’s behavior online.
Take screenshots, save links, note dates and times, and keep a record of who was involved. Documentation can help if you need to report cyberbullying to a school or platform.
Use privacy settings, block accounts when appropriate, and pause engagement so your child is not pulled into more harmful exchanges.
Try: “I’m sorry this happened,” “Thank you for telling me,” and “We’ll figure out the next steps together.” These responses build trust and lower shame.
Avoid reacting with panic, taking away all devices immediately, or asking why they didn’t stop it sooner. Those responses can make children less likely to share again.
Ask what happened, who saw it, whether it is ongoing, and what your child wants help with. Collaborative problem-solving helps them feel more in control.
Report posts, messages, impersonation, image-based harassment, or repeated abuse through the app or site so harmful content can be reviewed and removed.
Contact the school when the behavior involves classmates, affects your child’s school experience, includes group targeting, or is likely to continue in person.
If there are threats, sexual exploitation, stalking, extortion, or signs your child may be in immediate danger, contact emergency or crisis support right away.
Even after the posts or messages stop, your child may still feel embarrassed, anxious, angry, or isolated. Check in regularly, help them rebuild a sense of safety online, and watch for changes in sleep, mood, school avoidance, or withdrawal from friends. Support may include adjusting privacy settings, limiting exposure to harmful spaces, involving trusted adults, and creating a plan for what to do if contact happens again.
Stay calm, listen, and reassure your child that they did the right thing by telling you. Save evidence first, then decide whether to block, report, or involve the school based on how severe and ongoing the behavior is.
Use supportive language such as, “I believe you,” “This is not your fault,” and “We’ll handle this together.” Focus on safety and next steps rather than blame or punishment.
Take screenshots of messages, posts, usernames, dates, times, and URLs. Keep notes about what happened, who was involved, and whether it affected school, friendships, or your child’s emotional wellbeing.
Report it when classmates are involved, the behavior is repeated, it affects your child at school, or there are threats, humiliation, or group harassment that may continue offline.
Discourage retaliating online. Help your child pause, document what happened, and choose a response that protects them, such as blocking, reporting, and involving trusted adults when needed.
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